Life Stages

I can’t help but wonder if there are stages of life that we all must go through, things that have to happen us, experiences that nearly everyone must endure in order to advance in life.

I think if that is true, that we all must go through things, the time that we go through them doesn’t really matter. It doesn’t matter if you’re 13 or 33, there are certain experiences that advance you farther in life. Finding an item in early stage of a video game that you will need in a later stage is the only similarity I can come up with right now, knowing that if you don’t find the golden feather early enough, you’ll be forced to return to get it later and waste more time to complete the game.

Some of us have experienced so much at such a young age that in later years, when others are going through those same things we can relate but surely it has to be different, age alone must make things more difficult.

I had a conversation the other night with a good friend about relationships. I wonder if all relationships go through the same stages as well. I guess I was an early starter compared to some, I did things, said things, and experienced things much earlier than others. Looking back, I can see that some of those experiences helped me and others definitely hurt me later in life, I’m not saying my way is the right way at all. Writing this I wonder, the people I knew in high school who got married at 18, did they have to deal with those stages while they were married and have a rocky several years or maybe end in divorce? I can’t imagine being emotionally mature enough to be married at 18, although I’m sure I thought I was.

I think the older I get, the more I realize that the zeal I had in my younger years hasn’t necessarily been beneficial or detrimental, but more educational, whether I was mature enough to learn anything from it is something I will just have to wait to find out.

My decision to leave Facebook

I have decided to leave Facebook. I have been a member since October 10, 2005, about a year and a half really. In that time I’ve amassed a mere 97 friends, all of which I know in real life. I’ve coordinated events and gatherings, joked with my friends about life. Posted blog entires, seen pictures from all over the world of just about everyone doing just about everything. I keep up on my friends’ comings and goings, joys and tears, and I’m leaving. Soon.

I’m leaving because I can’t see a need for it anymore. The friends that I want to talk to have my cell number, my email address or know how to contact me through my website. The other people that I know, those that I rarely talk to or haven’t talked to in years really aren’t going to contact me anyway, I have no real desire to contact them either. I would have already if I needed to.

I stayed this long honestly because of the NCAA pool, I thought I was doing well, and honestly I didn’t do too bad, just not enough to win anything really. I have become annoyed by Facebook’s constant need for my attention, events, pictures, pokes, requests… Random phone calls at 2am about Dave Matthews. All of it. I don’t need it anymore.

I’m tired of the invites to things I have no interest in. I’m tired of checking the site to check on pokes or friend requests. It’s a big rumor mill. Who’s doing what with whom and when. It’s more drama than I need in my life. I’m happy using phones, email, and even face to face conversations to stay up to date on people that I care about.

To those of you who are my friend on Facebook, check my profile fast, get my website, AIM, and cell info, if you need to contact me do so. I have no problem talking to any of my friends, I just won’t be participating on Facebook anymore. To those of you who don’t know me on Facebook. Thank you for your continued reading on my site and I hope you’ll continue to do so.

To Mark Zuckerberg, creator of Facebook, I wish you well my friend. I wish you would have seen the light and sold out when you could have, I predict a mass exodus of Facebook soon. Not solely because of me or even partly because of me, because people are looking for better ways to do things, they want to be connected to those around them both literally (school friends) and figuratively (some guy in Vancouver with a D&D guild similar to yours, or something like that). I cannot say that I won’t be back on Facebook (no one really knows, but most likely I won’t), I may show up on some other social networking site, Virb has been sounding like the next big thing lately. I’m there but just as a placeholder for now. Friendster should be your case study of what not to do. If you can innovate and keep people happy with your features and not turn out to be the next MySpace, you might do OK, otherwise I fear others will write the same post I have.

So long my friends, buddies, and network companions.

First Impressions

Have you ever met someone for the first time that you’ve already known? I’m talking about people that you’ve heard so much about from your mutual friend that you basically feel like you already know them. Their/your friend has already made a first impression on their behalf. I hate that, here’s why:

First off you always have prejudices about them, you already “know” what they are like, who they like and what they do, and you’ve probably already made some judgements about them and their values. You know at least some of their friends and probably a few embarassing stories. Essientially you already know them, you just haven’t seen their face… First impressions never go away. You can meet someone a hundred times, but once you’ve had that very first one, the rest don’t matter as much. I wish that I could meet someone totally foreign to me, someone that I had never heard anything about, otherwise the first impression was already made for me by their friend. The worst thing about a first impression is it’s impossible to change, you don’t get a “do over” for a first impression.

Update: Someone gave me a briliant idea on how to meet someone entirely foreign to me. I’ll be keeping you up to date on how it works out…
I have no idea why I decided to write about this, I actually started this post back in November, today seemed like a good day to finish it up.

An icon?

To quote the Biddies: I wanna be famous!
I was recognized tonight, not by a friend or some friend fo a friend that I’ve at least met in passing before, but a real live stranger! Kelly stopped me in the Quad tonight, the convo went like this:
Kelly: Are you Mike?
Me: Yeah?….
Kelly: I like your blog.
In my head: What?! Who?! WTF, mate?! She likes my blog, what the heck does she know about little ole me?
Me: Hey, what’s your name?
Kelly: Kelly
Me: Cool, so how do you know about it… etc

The convo went on she apparently reads a friend of a friend’s blog and just happened to follow the links to mine. She complemented my style adn content, it was a short coversation but man it totally lifted me up. Thanks for the kind words Kelly and thanks to you and everyone else for reading. I’m seriously giddy about this, a complete stranger call me out in public and said “Hey, I like your blog!” That’s so awesome!
It’s little things like tonight that make all the time I spend on this site totally worth it.

A few moments begin an eternity

I’m going to a friend’s wedding today. He’s about 6 months older than me and he’s getting married to a girl that he’s known for his entire life but only has dated for the last 5 months, part of which he spent about 1000 miles away from her. He says he’s totally sure about what he’s doing and has no reservations about anything for today. I’m happy for him; I mean it’s not often that people actually get married because they “know.” Sure people get married because it’s convenient or they think that they are with the right person but nothing at leads me to believe that his intentions are anything less that totally sincere. I wish them the best and hope that they have many long years ahead of them. I spent most of the night last night with matt…. First I went out with the gang to go to Kokomo and just hang out or whatever, but everyone is sick and such. So I met Matt and some other people at like 10 to go back to Kokomo to BW’s … packed as usual. We hung out and just talked and stuff basically. Nothing important to report. It’s Christmas this week, and like I’ve said to a few people this year, it’s just not as magical as it has been in years past. I don’t’ know if it’s cause I’m alone this year or because there’s no snow or just because I’m getting older. People just seem to be going through the motions. Whether you are in the spirit or not I still hope that everyone gets their Christmas wish, I’m still waiting for mine…

I am a Manatee-atee

John Lithgow wrote a children’s book, I checked it out the toher day at the store with a friend. It was Interesting to say the least. Here’s an excerpt:
From time to time I dream I'm a Manatee?
that I’m a manatee
Undulating underneath the sea.

Unshackled by the chains of idle vanity,
A modest manatee,
That’s me

I’m a manatee,
I’m a manatee,

Outside the fold of boring old humanity.
No difference between my face and fann-atee…

Ok, I realize that children’s books are supposed to be somewhat stimulating to young minds, but “idle vanity”, and the “-atee” at the end of most every page are a little annoying. I urge all of you parents out there to not buy this book. It’s lame!
On to other things though, It’s raining and I’m stressed… I’m going out tonite… more later maybe.